We’re prepping for holiday shopping around here and have our top 10 list for an artistic and alternative teen. I find it sometimes hard to know what will be cool and quirky instead of plain dorky, so this type of list helps me a lot! I’m making this list from Caitlyn’s wishlist on Pinterest, updated for Christmas.
It just hit me today… The fun of organizing my life in preparation for a new year!! I’ve been working on my intentions for weeks if not months now, but suddenly, I’m planning events well into 2019 and realizing it’s time for new wall calendars and planners so that I have visual reminders and don’t overbook myself.
A few weeks ago, I wrote this post about going from no exercise to running 1.5 miles in less than a week. That post focused on how I did that, and what I tried differently than before. I can definitely say that part of it was mindset – and a lack of pressure to achieve perfection right away. Paradoxically, it was exactly that which led me to success. I don’t actually want to run a marathon. I just want to do some simple runs to keep my cardio fitness levels up.
One thing I didn’t talk about though, was gear. Doesn’t gear make a difference?
First, it occurs to me now that the more we allow Disbelievers to control whether we voice our stories, the more they control the outcomes. It’s scary as hell to tell a story like this, to open yourself up to the judgement that may come. This happened about 1/2 my life ago and my parents don’t know (until now). For some reason, unknown to me for a long time, I have carried shame for this. Even though that doesn’t make sense, it’s true. The psychology of victimhood doesn’t always follow “common sense”. Now I know that the shame I have carried about this reflects more about society’s views of these incidents and how our system first attempts to blame women, than it ever has reflected about me personally.
In talking with friends, colleagues, and other couples, we find that we have a bit of a different perspective that sometimes helps others navigate discomfort in their own lives. So, we decided to write about the things that we feel make a difference for us in the hope that it will be helpful for others. We focus on relationship, parenting, and wellness topics – all with a bent toward building awareness and conscious choice.
I wondered about the ways I wasn’t reliable to myself. One of the top ways I came up with was taking care of myself physically. Other ways include not finishing personal projects that I start, and / or not allocating enough time for projects that I deeply want to complete.
So one July evening, after evening fits at dinnertime and bedtime and practically every time in between, I was frantically writing in my journal when I stumbled upon the problem.
It was me.
Well, to be honest, it was me AND Casey. It was US.
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